Tuesday, October 14, 2008


I can't say enough about this movie!

In this journal's archives, you'll find a five year old entry titled, "My Cousin Vinny." I won't make you go there to read the story I'll just tell you briefly, that, up until this past June, My Cousin Vinny was the last movie that the husband and I went to the movies to see (just the two of us). That was in 1992.

Brace yourselves! ... Last night, the husband and I had a date night at the movies with over 150 other couples from our church! I KNOW! We were very excited to have a night out to see a movie together. And it was an opportunity to meet other couples from our church. It just occurred to me the other day that ... we don't have friends. Let me rephrase that; We don't have "couple" friends. I have my friends and he has his but we don't socialize at all with other couples. Weird, huh? Our first years were extremely stressful as a married couple because our son was born three months premature with so many health problems we weren't prepared for. We didn't focus on our social life. We just didn't have one for over a dozen years. Now that we have a respite provider and are able to have a little bit of a social life, most of our old friends are divorced. We've had respite night (date night, we call it) on Fridays for the last three years which has been instrumental in restoring our relationship. The thought of where we'd be without it terrifies me. That's one reason why we feel so passionate about this movie. There just isn't enough focus on marriage and family anymore in the big screen world. There isn't enough focus on marriage and family, period, if you ask me. But that's a whole 'nother journal entry. I am a survivor of a broken marriage that ended in divorce; I know exactly how difficult divorce can be. I am also a survivor of a broken marriage that did not end in divorce, but was restored.

One of my favorite lines from the movie is when Kirk Cameron's character was having a talk with a friend of his who was trying to counsel him about his marriage. His friend told him, "You can't follow your heart. You've got to lead your heart." Wow --- I can't add anything to that.

I'll try to update soon with a few photos. Till then, y'all take care!


Bill said...

I am very pleased that you have been able to "date". That had to be the best evening out for you in many years. I do understand the "not getting out since 1992". Libby and I don't get out much. That is why we relish things like going to the Physical Therapist together. I sure enjoyed this post. Good for you!!!
Regards, Bill.

Indigo said...

What a serene beautiful entry. I wrote that quote down to remember. It's so right...Paul and I had it rough our first year too. Somehow we pulled through and are stronger for it. There has been so much weight put on him dealing with the loss of the last of my hearing, my deafness. Add in being a dad for the first time to a girl who was already at the end of her teenage angst. You come to the understanding when you get to the other side of some of these things, if that didn't end you...nothing will. It's been almost 5 years since I've seen my last movie. Kind of hard to without being able to hear it. It was our first date movie and our last...Thank you for stopping by my journal (blog sounds so impersonal doesn't it?) hon!

Bridgett said...

Hooray for dates! They make such a big difference, don't they? Doug and I haven't been on a date since February. ::sigh::

I've heard about this movie and want to see it. Maybe we'll try and go soon. :)


Bill P said...

Glad for you and Paul. If you ever get a chance, go try the Harpersville Drive-In. It be cool!


Sheria said...

Your blog is beautiful, great colors and layout. Beautiful entry too, date night is a great idea, and your review of the movie makes me want to see it.

Rjet33 said...

Thanks so much for your comment in my last entry in my journal. I am so glad we met. We seem to be dealing with similar issues. We have been invited to hear Kirk Cameron speak in a church in Pensacola, FL in December. They may be showing this movie at that time. I hope we get to go. I have always loved Kirk Cameron. I have heard this is an awesome movie. Please keep me and my family in your prayers and I will do the same for you.



Chrissie said...

I am in the middle of a divorce after 24yrs of marriage, but I would have loved to seen this movie. Actually, I would have loved for my husband to see this movie. He didn't get marriage. I believe in for better and worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health, being faithful, but my husband didn't. I'm happy to hear that you all make sure to go out and enjoy. I wish you a long wonderful marriage.
Thank you for stopping by my tag journal.
Take care, Chrissie